January 10, 2012

Flipping the Switch

Several years ago my husband, Tom, explained to me that in everything we do we are either trying to gain pleasure or avoid pain.

Hmmm... I thought. Could this be?

He was probably on to something but I had to think about it.

I began noticing what he said was true.

Soon after I had a dentist appointment, which over the years, I had grown to dread. After having had several root canals, I hated going even for a cleaning.

I felt trapped in the dentist's chair, pinned down even, with sweaty hands, a pounding heart, at their mercy, with my mouth gaping wide open.

I couldn't wait until it was over.

It was a painful situation.

So I started to think about how I could gain pleasure from going to the dentist. It didn't seem possible but what I finally came up with was that I began to look at it as a spa experience.

Oh yeah baby.

Suddenly, instead of being in a torture chamber I was in the lap of luxury.  Flat on my back, relaxing. Cleanings became little enjoyable massages for my mouth. Someone was lovingly taking care of me, instead of putting me through miserable agony. 

The change was like flipping a switch.

The pleasure switch.

So next time you are experiencing something painful

look. for. the switch.

and hopefully

you will find




  1. oh yeah baby...right on sister! Our mind is a very powerful tool...it can be used for good and the not so good. It's all up to us how we use it! Peace Be...:)

  2. Yes! Another example of how this technique has worked for me is in the patience domain. For many years I use to go visit my mom's cousin every week who lived until he was 101-years-old. Frequently I would go out to lunch with him. You wouldn't believe how s-l-o-w-l-y he ate. It was painful to watch. It would take a whole hour or more for him to eat. And he didn't like to talk while he was eating. Unaccustomed to not doing "anything" I didn't know what to do with myself for so long. After I finished eating I would start to feel all hippity-hoppity and like I was six years old again. Then I flipped the switch and started to enjoy this hour of complete nothingness and zen-ness. It turned into a very peaceful experience, instead of remaining a grueling one.

  3. Thank you for the reminder, Louise...a powerful tool for always cultivating happiness as we change our thoughts and intentions to "be present" and appreciate every situation as a discovery...like children do! xo

  4. You shouldn't be scared of you dentist since they are there to treat your tooth problems.