April 24, 2013

One Ringy Dingy

Ever since I got an Iphone last year I've been kind of consumed by it. There is hardly ever a dull moment anymore, such as waiting in line at the grocery store, or waiting for anything. I knew it would be this way and that is why I resisted. But then my camera broke and I was need of a new phone because mine was hanging literally by a thread. And I loved that handy wonderful little camera on the Iphone. Plus I blog and I need a smartphone. Right?

So I bought one.

And that's when all hell broke loose.

Kind of.

Truth be told, I am an information junky. Like so many people, I catch a buzz from the internet. It makes me happy. I like getting my questions answered in lightening speed. Smartphone makes me feel.....smarter.

Plus I am always entertained.

Until I am not.

Our blood pressure goes up every time we hear our phone ring, or hear the ding of an email arriving, or a text. It's like all day long we get these little presents in our phone. But these little presents are often problems that arrive. Emails that need to be addressed. Distractions that rob our time, and our soul, from doing what we really want or need to be doing.

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Sometimes by day's end I just want to throw the little fucker across the room.

It also makes me sad that the first thing people do when they come out of a class or a meeting is check their phone. It's the perfect escape for people who are afraid to be, or don't want to be, together.

Like me sometimes.

And then there is my aging mother who in reality I have PRECIOUS little time to spend with, even though she's just 3 miles from me now. When I am with her my phone exaggerates the tug of war of needing to take care of life's details and spending uninterrupted time with her.

I imagine you know what I mean.

And then there is my friend who found out recently that her twenty-six year old son has brain cancer. And the tumor is right where he has been holding his phone all these years (see video below).

Oh my dear,dear darlin'.

Maybe it's related to cell phones, maybe it isn't, but with all this said, I vow to leave my phone in the car much more often.

We don't need to be accessible 24/7. It's stressful to always be on call.

I also vow to not carry it around with me as many of us always do.

I vow to charge it, not next to my bed as I've been doing at night, but across the room.

Basically I vow to give myself the break,

and the peace of mind,

that I've been sorely missing.


  1. Sigh...I'm finding unplugging has become harder than plugging in. There's a lot of scary stuff happening in our world right now and technology can be a lifesaver...and as you so poignantly point out, it can also be deadly. Thanks for the reminder. I just turned off my phone for the first time in days.

    1. I am afraid it's a sign of the times!

      Thank you for your comment Econesting :-)

  2. Many should read this so I shared on facebook.

  3. Thank you Lisa for sharing it on facebook. I think it's an important message.

  4. To share on Facebook just click on the "F" at the end of the post. It is also possible to share on twitter and Google+ or email it to a friend.

  5. Let's throw the little fucker together...ready, 1, 2, 3, throw!!!

  6. While I also love my iPhone, every day I make a conscious effort to not be consumed by and tethered to it. I've learned that this is one of the most noticeable ways that I seem to differ from our "younger generation", who often seem to be absorbed with their phones, even when they're dining or otherwise enjoying themselves "with" their friends. To my dismay, I also witnessed "phone obsession" from two 20/30 somethings during a recent interview. Two of the four interviews texted and/or emailed throughout the interview. If they had an urgent matter to attend to and had stated so, I would, of course, understand. That did not seem to be the case. They were interested in my skills enough to bring me in for an interview. I invested time and effort to go to the interview -- and be fully present and engaged with them. To me, their behaviors were rude and unprofessional, especially since it did not even seem to cross their minds not to use their phones during an interview. Let's all hope one's wisdom does still increase with age.

  7. Thank you for your comment.Cellphones really are the latest invention in rudeness. The fact that it didn't even cross their minds not to use their cellphones during an interview is so indicative of how much the times have changed. I suddenly feel a huge generational gap here and can only echo our previous generation's question:

    "What's this world coming to?"

  8. Louise, I don't have a smart phone, but I am wired in the home. I am grateful for my connections. There is a level of support that I receive from my virtual community. However, I do wonder if I pull myself away enough. That is a real struggle for me. I also think stress levels have risen since the use of cell phones. Remember the first time you let your kid take the car and told them to call you when they got there? And then they forgot, turned their phone off because they had a choir concert. Your rational mind said they just forgot. Your irrational mind said they were in an accident. I think back to when we were young. We did all kinds of things without checking in with our parents every ten minutes. Now, I have my kids calling me when they are lost to help them get directions. There are certain things in life that need to be figured out on your own. And cell phones have made it all too easy to call mom with every headache. It's really a love/hate relationship isn't it?

  9. Jane I agree with you 100%. It's a different world we live in that's for sure. Thank you for your comment.