April 12, 2012

Aging Gracefully with Wellness

This week's beauty is Carol Mossa who is 57 years old. Carol participated in The Revelation Project, which I am also a part of.

Carol is the director of  The Well Healing Arts Center in Rhode Island and has this to share about growing older:

"A few Mondays ago, I was having dinner with a group of eight women friends. We have been meeting weekly like this for nearly a year.  My point in mentioning the frequency and duration of our get-togethers is to indicate that these are women who know me well. These friends have heard me share intimate details about my life, struggles, and triumphs as a mother, daughter, ex-wife, friend, and business woman. This particular night, we were discussing a recent car accident that had claimed the lives of several local young people.  We began speculating about the cause of the crash, and inevitably, the conversation turned to underage drinking, texting, and the inherent dangers in both of those practices. While I no longer drink alcohol, I am occasionally guilty of texting while driving.

I was willing to rat myself out for the meaningful dialogue that I was sure would follow, so I spoke up, "I'm 57 years old.  I get it; I know better, but I am guilty of texting while driving."

Voices around the table erupted! My friends were astonished. However, they were not dismayed over my deadly habit. "You're 57 years old???" one longtime friend asked in disbelief. Another said, "Shut up! No, you're not. Seriously?" And still another, "Oh, my God---you don't look that old."
I took a moment to thank my friends, to graciously accept their resounding surprise and glee over the fact that I had somehow managed to cheat the aging calendar and appear more youthful. One friend actually said, "I wouldn't put you a day past 45."
So it got me thinking.....

What does 57 feel like?  What should it feel like?  Honestly, I wouldn't trade 45 for 57 anytime soon. At 45, though chronologically younger, I was aging fast. I was 15 years into a marriage that was destined to fail 5 years later.  I was about to enter a dark period of self-destruction and addiction that I thankfully survived thanks to the grace of God and those women (and others) present there that night. 

I feel, at 57, better emotionally, physically, and spiritually than I have in my entire life. I have healthy, loving relationships with my 3 children today.  I smile. I laugh. Loud. I have faith.  As the Director of The Well Healing Arts Center, I am privileged to offer women a safe place to heal their bodies, minds, and spirits.  I have a profound sense of purpose, and for that, I am grateful.

 If I don't text and drive, I have a good chance of making it to 58."

Thank you Carol for being this week's beauty and for your wonderful contribution.


  1. Carol,
    You are a beauty- it radiates from inside- that's why you look "Youthful" and likely always will. You are in touch with gratitude, self love, and self respect which makes all of us youthful and vibrant. I know what you've had to go through to be there which makes you courageous and powerful beyond measure. Your texting while driving is also a courageous admission! ( one I know we can all say tsk tsk about but have been guilty of ourselves at one time or another) Thank you for "NOT" being perfect. I love you! - Monica

  2. So appreciate your honesty. Wish everyone understood that open dialogue about our past and present invites support and admiration. You go girl. Looking good!

  3. I love that at 57, you feel better emotionally, physically, and spiritually than you have in your entire life.

  4. Good Morning Carol~
    To laugh LOUDLY is wonderful. I'm 60 and know how good I feel after a good, long laugh. And that magically happens when I get together, like you, with my girlfriends. Love my girlfriends! Love to laugh! Thanks for your nice post that I stumbled upon this morning via clicking links. Sending love & laughter your way and my best wishes for a wonderful day.
    xoxo Amy Arnaz

  5. Louise--thank you for a lovely interview with Carol. I love these dinners she shares with her friends and wish that I could invite the gang of bloggers to such an event. I love her candidness and although I don't use a cell phone, there ARE risks I take in my daily life...that don't make much sense when you're 57!

  6. I really love women who age gracefully especially if they are beautiful.

  7. I absolutely loved this post. It sounds like you have done a fantastic job of staying healthy. One of the things that I think is so important is to accept the aging process. If you embrace it, it embraces you. I feel like you have done exactly that!

    I work with senior citizens every day, helping them cover the out of pocket gaps brought on by government Medicare at medigapgroup.com. Many of them are constantly worrying about how they can stay looking youthful. The best piece of advice that I can give them is to stop trying! Just let what is supposed to happen happen, and everything usually works out much better. Thank you so much for sharing, you have an excellent blog. Feel free to check out our website any time.

  8. Love this!! I am 47 and could have written the same thing!

  9. Carol, you are an inspiration to all of us! love you to pieces...xoxo