July 20, 2010

Do You Like Growing Old?

Photo by Dora Pete, Hungary

I am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person I have always wanted to be. As I've aged, I've become kinder to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend.

I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so avante garde on my patio.

I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant. I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.

Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 AM and sleep until noon? I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60 &70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love ..... I will.

Photo by Bert Van t'Hul, The Netherlands

I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face.

So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.

As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.

So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be.

And I shall eat dessert every single day, if I feel like it.

Author Unknown

Thank you to Laurie for sending this in.


  1. Louise,

    This is the best! I love what the unknown author wrote! The whole thing!
    I was laughing through some of it as some of things she said were so true about the freedom of getting older.

    I LOVE growing old!
    My perspective on it is that I have become a Whole person deep within and it is all attributed to life's lessons.
    So the emotional and mental aspect of growing old is exciting as the wisdom sets you free from all of society's thoughts, ideas, and judgements.
    The physical aspect of growing old for me is a graceful one.
    I truly don't put much energy into my aging parts and feed into the negativity some place on not having the 'fountain of youth' appearance.
    I'd rather focus on what is true, loving, and deep in the rest of my time on earth.

    Thank you for this post Louise!

  2. Louisie - That is the BEST quote. Thanks for posting it. You're the best! xxoo,J

  3. Glad you both like the quote. It is a good one. I think you're right Maria that the real beauty and gift of aging is the whole person that we continue to become- more of who we truly are and less of who we think we should be when we look around us. My post next weeks points directly to this.
    I remember years ago when I was younger and life was more hectic, I wrote on a piece of paper "If it's okay with me, then don't worry about it." and put it in my wallet as a reminder to stay on course to my true self. It really helped.

  4. My favorite line in this is "I've become my own friend." It's so important to be best of friends with ourselves. It's one of the beauties of aging.