March 04, 2013

Can We

The night before we left for Madeira we all had our usual pre-trip anxieties.

What was it going to be like for the four of us to be together constantly for ten days, let alone living out in the country with relatives?

The kids are now 19 and 21 and it had been over two years since we had all been sequestered like this together for so long.

And for me, quietly I worried- can the plane land successfully again on Madeira's short runway, which has been listed as one of the most dangerous airports in the world?

It's interesting what fears come up when we embark on adventures.

The night before we left, as we were hurriedly celebrating both Valentine's Day and my birthday, I suggested a plan at the dinner table to help insure that we had a good time together.

I had done this with my siblings last summer before we cleaned out my mom's house, to ready it for sale, and it really helped.

So I said to Tom and the kids:

Can we make a pact to not fight or put each other down?

Can we just keep negative thoughts to ourselves, or write them in a journal, or put them in an imaginary balloon and allow them to float up into the abyss?

Can we?

So we all agreed that we would try our best and in doing so we were able to have a really nice trip together.

The power of intention.

The older I grow, the more clearly I see how powerful  it is.


  1. Love the photos Louise! That pink door and the colors and that gorgeous stone road. Madeira must be beautiful!

  2. Nice to hear from you Kristin.

    Madeira is beautiful, you would love it there.


  3. I love your beautiful blog good job Thanks lot for this useful article

  4. My birthday present to catch up on your beautiful blog. :) Madeira is a true blessing for you, dear friend. So happy to hear about your life-heart experience. Love you. xoxox

  5. Ahhh thank you.

    Happy birthday Cyn!

    I hope you have a really nice b'day celebration.


  6. Powerful indeed. We have had to do similar things. It's so easy to complain, bicker, etc. among our family members. Perhaps because it is so easy to do it among the people we love. But it can tear us apart as well. It's good to have intention. I love the photos also!

  7. I don't think it is healthy to keep negative thoughts inside where they can fester, but putting them in an imaginary balloon and letting them float up and away is a great idea Louise!

  8. Thank you all for your comments. I love comments.

    Jane I am relieved to hear that you have the same thing going on sometimes with your family. I told two friends of mine about it, who both have boys, and they said that this doesn't happen in their family. Perhaps it's more of a girl issue.